Where Do You Grow?

Posted by: Tom,

I've been processing some thoughts on the environments where we grow in our relationship with God. Here is a diagram of the concept.



















The larger the circle the larger the impact the indicated environment has on your spiritual growth. In this diagram "Personal Bible Study" has the biggest impact and a relationship with a "Mentor" has the smallest impact. This is just an example so in real life there would probably be several more environments and the sizes would be different for each individual person.

The thought is that each person needs a number of environments where we can grow in our relationship with God. Some of the environments may serve other purposes so just because they are small doesn't mean they have less value. The church can help people by making learning environments available for people.

But to do so we also need to understand that everyone is at a different point on a continuum with regard to their desire to grow. Consider the following diagram.








Individuals would fit all along this continuum. A learning environment that included people from a wide range of this continuum would have a smaller impact on an individuals spiritual growth because to include everyone the environment would probably need to target its purpose and activities to meet a broad range of desire. An environment that included individuals that also fit fairly close together on the continuum would be able to focus more and would therefore probably have a greater impact on the individual's growth.

Environments could also have greater impact the farther the members of the environment are toward the "Highly Motivated" end of the continuum because these individuals would be more likely to accept a purpose and activities for the environment that targeted spiritual growth. Individuals toward the "casual" end would tend to favor other purposes and activities for the environment.

Practically, we can set expectations for an environment, and avoid a lot of frustration, if we are aware of these factors. If we create an environment that consists of individuals from a wide range on the continuum we should realize that we are probably not going to get high impact spiritual growth from that environment. Instead we can use that environment to build community, nudge individuals in the direction of growth, etc. On the other hand, if we create an environment that is made up of a group of individuals that all come from a region far to the right on the continuum we can expect that this environment will need to challenge the individuals to grow or they will probably quickly lose interest.

Just thinking out loud.


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Brilliant, and very timely for me. Thanks for writing this.
Brilliant??? I'll have to show that comment to my wife. She'll just laugh though. :)
Thomas D. Minton said...
1:58 PM
Tom, Jim Lehmer shared your blog with me and I find it highly interesting. Obviously it is something you have given some thought and have had positive experiences with these relationship. You have been fair, and I think correct, to say that the size of the circles would be different for different ones of us. What I would like to see you do is show us where these environments overlap and whether the overlap strengthens or distracts from a growing relationship with God. Or such related questions. Good food for thought, though. Thanks. Thomas Minton
Thomas, thanks for the comment, and watch out for Lehmer, he's trouble. :)

I haven't taken this idea in that direction and I will be posting more thoughts about where I was going with it soon. But back to your thoughts, I would say that there is a lot of overlap in the circles. It may be hard to conceptualize though because while some of the overlaps would be constant (a mentor who is also in your Sunday School class) many of the overlaps would be changing constantly (the week your small group study just happens to be the same as what your going through in your personal Bible study). You could still draw the influence though without showing the overlap. So for deciding how much my mentor influences my spiritual growth I would add up the impact he has on me in our 1 on 1 meetings, the influence of his participation in SS, plus all the other times he has an impact. The overlap would not be shown visually though and it would be messy when you came down to dividing influences between two different environment. But hey, life is messy.

I also have not tried to have the spatial relationship between the circles mean anything. I suppose there are people who would want to do that too.
 
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